‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ Four-Play Discussion: Should we love or hate it?

[tps_title]Final thoughts on Fifty Shades of Grey[/tps_title]

Gaby: Final thoughts/arguments? Should people feel guilty for enjoying the movie?

Jon: One of the top reasons people in abusive relationships don’t leave their partners is because 1) They think they can change them & 2) Because they aren’t always abusive/sometimes show compassion and kindness.

Melissa: I had a problem with her self-esteem issues and his control issues. I never assumed anything about the BDSM community, actually. But it’s a story, and it’s being told. I don’t think that’s a problem because there’s going to be all sorts of stories, and some aren’t puppies and rainbows. No, I’m very into not being ashamed for liking something.

Allyson: I don’t think people should feel guilty because movies are about escapism, and this is a pleasurable one for women. What’s done is done, I suppose. But it’s a film that should be looked at with an educated lens. It shows just how screwed up the masses’ perception of love is and leads people to paint women, men and sexuality as a whole in such unflattering and unfortunate ways.

Gaby: I have issues with the movie, especially with Christian’s behavior. But I’m also glad about all of the discussion and awareness the movie is creating across the internet. I feel like even if we don’t agree with the movie, we can use it to gain attention to issues we care about it.

Jon: Being part of the BDSM community, I can appreciate this film for starting a dialogue about sexual exploration, especially for women who have been historically repressed in that area. What I can’t get past are all the negative stereotypes and the spread of misinformation this film perpetuates. At its core, it demonizes and stigmatizes the community with its slander.

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